Day 3: My first love (aromantic version)

I’m going to go all high-school essay on this one and start by defining the terms. I know what is meant by ‘love’ in this context – a common romantic love – but as I am aromantic I will tease out the idea a little.

LOVE (noun)

  • a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.

LOVE (abstract noun)

  • a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for parent, child, or friend.
  • an affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.
  • an enthusiasm, or devotion.
  • a profoundly tender passion for another person.
  • a sexual desire.

to LOVE (verb)

  • to have love or affection for.
  • to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for.
  • to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in.
  • to need or require; benefit greatly from.
  • to embrace and kiss (someone).
  • to have sexual intercourse with.

So although I have not had a romantic ‘love’ (noun) in the commonly accepted usage of the phrase, I have had many friends with which I have shared ‘deep affection’, ‘warmth’, ‘attachment’, ‘admiration’, and ‘devotion’ with.

ROMANCE (noun)

  • a love affair, especially an intense and happy but short-lived affair involving young people and/or unmarried people
  • a love story especially in the form of a novel, treating love in an idealized or sentimental way
  • something (a story, account, or explanation) that is extravagant, absurd, or fantastic and lacks basis in fact

To me romance is purely a literary device.